My philosophy is simple: Parenting begins with you, not your child.
Putting yourself first in the parenting equation may seem strange, yet it is intuitive. Think of it this way: On an airplane, in case of emergency, you must first secure the oxygen mask on yourself. Once you are able to breathe, you can then secure the mask on your child. So it is with parenting. Only after you are balanced and secure, can you then offer balance and security to your child. It really is that simple. You first.
Everyday I hear the same concern from parents: “I don’t understand why my child is behaving this way.” My response is always the same: “Before I can figure out the problem or issue with your child, I must first spend time with you, the parent.” By learning about the parent first—both strengths and weaknesses—I am able to help them balance their own lives.
There is no doubt that a parent with a balanced life, both physically and mentally, is a better parent. A parent more equipped to be a loving and healthy role model for their child. You owe it to your child to be the best possible you. Parenting really does begin with you.
Are you getting enough quantity and quality of sleep? When you wake up do you feel good?
Are you fulfilled enough at work, even if staying home is your work, to be happy at the end of the day?
Are you using food to stay healthy and energetic? Is meal time a time for relaxation and communication?
E: EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION
Do you let the important people in your life know how you are feeling? Do you allow yourself physical and emotional intimacy?
P: PLAYAre you letting yourself enjoy life? Do you have a way to let go of worry and direct your energy to a positive place?